is there a way to skip outputs using the automation api? The cli has a param for it but i cannot seam to find it in the automation api types (TS)

You mean skip retrieving them at the end of an update? I don't think so. Would be great to open an issue. https://github.com/pulumi/pulumi/issues/new?assignees=&labels=kind%2Fenhancement%2Cneeds-triage&template=1-feature-request.md

done: https://github.com/pulumi/pulumi/issues/12549