aws:ec2:Vpc       rds-vpc-vpc                  deleting...  completing deletion from previous update

How do i remove this task? that resource has dependency but its still trying to delete it

Have you tried removing the pending operation from the stacks state? You can do this by running

pulumi stack export > export.json

, removing the pending operation and then running

pulumi stack import < export.json

.

oh i had no idea you can do that

Let me know if you get stuck but that should sort it