I have a resource which has dependencies and

deleteBeforeReplace

, if that resource needs to replaced the dependencies must also be deleted (because they depend on the parent resource, and the parent resource can't be deleted while they exist) -- this isn't what happens though and the resource can't be deleted, and thus can't be replaced

Can you over-ride the setting on the parent resources? (or explicitly define parent/child?)

What do you mean over-ride the setting ?

Separate to any definable or ‘soft’ pulumi relationships or dependencies, you just cannot delete a subnet before you delete everything within it. If you’re OK with doing that… and all the resources are managed by your stack, if they are all set to be children of the parent, and the parent is deleted… it should delete everything.

Can you raise issue on our github about this. It might be there's a way to work around this already, but you might need a new setting to override the delete when a dependee resource is deleted logic in replace.

I can workaround it by manually calling

destroy

on the resources easily enough.