Is deleting custom resources special in any way? I noticed that If I try to delete one that has children,

--target-dependents

has no effect. I must be missing something here.

did you mean component resources? Are your child resources setting

parent = this

everywhere?

Yes, extending

pulumi.ComponentResource

, and setting {parent: this} on the child resources. Should this also include a dependsOn as well?

Hmmm I think it's worth a try. I know pulumi has 2 different concepts of their resource graph. There is a parent/child graph (for display purposes) and a dependency graph (for provisioning purposes). Which is necessary so that a resource can depend on multiple other resoruces. So if

--target-dependents

works only on the latter graph than it might make sense that it isn't recognizing the dependents of your

pulumi.ComponentResource

. A

dependsOn

would add that explicit dependency

Okay, that would still align with my mental model of how this works. Will give that a shot.