I have gotten into a situation where I cannot destroy my stack due to an ALB being in use by a listener or a rule and a security group being in use. Should I manually delete these objects or will I get into an even worse state?

@faint-balloon-33174 is the listener/rule defined in your code? if not, deleting from AWS and doing the destroy will work. if you have defined it in code, remove the code as well so the state matches

I ended up resolving it by manually deleting the resources that were having issues and then running

pulumi refresh

before doing

pulumi destroy

again which finished the job